Soulmates in Your Past Lives

Healing From Past Life Relationships

I feel like I've met you before. 

Have you ever had a connection that was so immediate that it seemed like someone you've always known just popped in and re-introduced themselves. How do I know this person? You might think, only to come up short. 

Our culture has done a good job at blowing this whole soulmate concept right out of the water. We're inundated from childhood with images of the princess and prince, the couple who would do anything, including give their lives, for each other. And yet, in my own life, these intense soulmate connections have proved challenging. I tend to run into them thinking, Finally! Prince charming! only to leave going What the hell happened?

It seems that at least some soul connections require healing from past interactions. Certain people do come into our lives to work out past karma, and others will carry an energetic signature of a past dynamic. Were you and a loved one at some point a master and a slave? Do you feel that way in your current situation, like you're playing out a specific role like an actor in a play? Almost without trying, you continue in a behavior that doesn't make sense for the current situation. Why is it so hard to get out of this? You might think. Believe me, I've been there. What we bring in with us from the past can certainly require extra effort to identify and release. 

When I first met Joey (name changed, for obvious reasons) it was straight out of a movie. Dressed in my best, headed to a party, I swept passed a garden stand, relishing the divinely heavy floral scent when out of nowhere; a tall, handsome man in trousers and rolled sleeves stepped out into my path. "Miss, miss, wait a minute, sit with me," he said, gesturing to two chairs off to the side. Immediately, an aura of otherworldliness descended upon me, catching me off guard. What, how, why? I had no words, but hesitantly acquiesced and took a seat across from this man.

Somehow, we had a discussion- names, where are you from, what do you do- but it was as if we were just checking in on the particulars of each others' lives like we would listen to the details of a loved one's day. It was as if we were catching up.

Being around him was like having a spotlight on me. I felt wrapped in a blanket of love and warmth. It was the stuff of old love songs.  

Are the stars out tonight
I don't know if it's cloudy or bright
I only have eyes for you dear

When it came crashing to an end, which it did after I found out he had lied about some pretty important parts of his life (example: being single, for one); I have never cried so hard. It felt like my future had been taken away from me. The plans we had made were dissolved just like that. It was an abrupt change, and a hard one. I found myself seeking some explanation for the intensity of not only our connection, but the break up. Why had he lied? Seeking answers, I turned to past-life regression.

Past life regression can be extremely helpful and illuminating for things that challenge us for reasons that just don't make sense to us. Why do we get really afraid when we get close to a large animal (maybe you were eaten by one), or why do we have trouble opening up (a loved one in the past betrayed us), or even why we can't have something tight wrapped around our neck (guillotine anyone?). We do come in with certain tendencies. A friend's daughter, for instance, is highly self-conscious, easily upset, always concerned that she's being cheated, and sensitive when even gently corrected. She has particular challenges that her siblings just don't have. There are certainly a number of factors that one can attribute this to. You can put it off to nature, nurture, or a combination of the two, but I tend to think it's something her spirit came in with. Not chemical, but spiritual.

In my past life regression session, I found myself with Joey on a crowded cobbled street. Although he looked different, I recognize him by the way he felt - comfortable, warm, and funny. We were children, poor, and petty thieves. At some point, I stole something, blamed him, and left him to deal with the consequences. Seeing this life play out before me was really helpful by allowing me to see the inner workings of our history that engineered our meeting. Our spirits were connected by a karmic debt. I, in a way, owed him.

So how do we stop this cycle of betrayed-betrayal? How do we come to a neutral place? The answer, I believe, is forgiveness. Forgiving myself, and forgiving him. Without this, I may forever hold a grudge, cease trusting men, or even stop myself from experiencing love again. I might condemn him, never to understand that his motivations for doing what he did were, at least in part, something he didn't necessarily have control over. Perhaps his intentions were really good, and then everything sort of got away from him. It allows me to see the other possibilities rather than feeling like a victim and remaining hurt.

If you're interested in learning more about past-life regression and soulmates, come check out our soulmates and reincarnation class tomorrow night on Learnitlive.com. Janice is leading it, and you're sure to learn alot. If you can't come tomorrow, check out the recording. You can still undergo the hypnotherapy, even if its after the fact. If you have any questions, comments, or maybe even your own story to share; feel free to comment below or email us! 

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A LIFE COACH AND A LIFE INTERPRETER?

MANY PEOPLE ARE FAMILIAR WITH THE CONCEPT OF A LIFE COACH - BUT WHAT IS A LIFE INTERPRETER?

When Janice used to try to describe herself to people, she would often say she was a life coach with a twist. Eventually, she settled on life interpreter rather than life coach, as the techniques she used in helping people to change their lives was more akin to teaching them to speak a new language than it was in training them for a big game. This metaphor is of course somewhat imprecise, but the take away should be that there is a lot more going on with a session with Janice than there is with a typical life coach. This has to do with her specific perspective and training.

A life coach is a supporter, a confidante, someone who you can feel open with. They are someone who can act as an objective observer in your life. Isn't it true that we can often see what other people should do but it's hard to tell for ourselves what we should do? A life coach can be trained, or untrained, depending on the person. It is not completely unrealistic to think that some people are just better at being objective observers, supporters, and confidantes, and perhaps they wouldn't require training. Others will have a smattering of certificates and trainings. Certainly, licensed psychologists and psychiatrists abound and are well trained. So what makes life interpretation so different from what other people are doing? And what, exactly, are we interpreting?

The easiest answer to this is that we are interpreting your own thoughts, actions and reactions so that you can better understand yourself. Why do you act the way you act? What do you have this job, this sort of relationship? It's deep questioning with often startling answers.  Some people might understand their own motivations and know why they think the way that they think, but surprisingly, most people aren't really sure why they do what they do. Imagine that! Where are you on that spectrum? For most of us, we're operating from our habits, learned behaviors, and false beliefs. It's pretty fascinating when you start to see how you are creating your world from your understanding of it.

You may be surprised to find out that most traditionally trained mental health professionals aren't focusing at all on helping you to re-write your core beliefs. What!? you might be thinking, and I was surprised to learn this too. This idea just hasn't yet made it's way into the mainstream, although it's been very popular in alternative methods and Eastern philosophies for a long time.

The way that Janice has helped people to gain understanding into their programs is typically three fold.

First, to get the hang of this, you need to learn first how to de-stress (most people are way too stressed to even begin to think about changing the way their mind works!).

After people begin to learn how to relax and gain some space in their day to learn about other things, she will talk to them about how energy works. Many studies are coming out about just how interconnected and affected by each other we really are. If someone you don't even know, like a friend's friend, or a neighbor down the street has a bad day, why would that affect you? The answer lies in energy. People are so much more attuned and aware than we give ourselves credit for. The reason for that is that our subconscious is doing much of the processing of the stimulus around us and not letting on to the conscious mind. Surprisingly, even though we aren't consciously aware of it, these stimuli processed by the sub-conscious still affect how we are feeling. In one study done by Cornell University in tandem with Facebook found the following: 

"Over a one-week period in 2012, they changed the content of news feeds for a random sample of Facebook users. For one group of users they removed content that contained positive words, for another group they removed content that contained negative words. They then measured whether subtly biasing the emotional content in this way changed the emotional content of status updates by the users. Sure enough it did. Making feeds more negative led to more negative behaviour, and vice versa."  Source

The good news about this is that as we are learning more about how much we are affected by each other and the subtle subconscious cues we are receiving. We are also learning how to protect ourselves and become more aware so that we can limit the amount of noise triggering emotional responses from our brains. This is the second tier of Janice's work with her clients: she teaches them to protect themselves from unwanted emotional contagions.

Lastly, we talk about beliefs. Learning to control our stress level and the energetic signals we are receiving is really about understanding what exactly is affecting us and sort of wiping off that extra muck that makes it hard for our wheels to spin. While you are really talking about beliefs the whole time you are working with Janice, beliefs become the main focus at some point when you start to master energetic messages and stress. What things are you creating and why? This is by no means the easiest part of your learning, either. Beliefs exist for a reason, typically to protect us. The road to self-awareness isn't necessarily straight. My own journey has had many detours, re-routes (haven't I seen this tree before?) and breakdowns, but it certainly has left me in a much more livened state than when I started. So, will you take this journey with us? Will you learn to interpret your life and in so doing truly awaken to your potential?

This is a BIG learning curve, and an exciting one. Just imagine, if you knew you were creating your life, what you could create differently? I can think of a few things for myself!

That, in summation, is pretty much the difference, from what I can tell, between a life coach and a life interpreter. Let us hear your thoughts!

Are You Lying To Yourself? I was.

During our most recent podcast How to Survive Earth School recording (available on Itunes and Soundcloud), I had an epiphany of sorts with the help of Janice and Christine D.

While I do this work, and feel like I have gotten so much better recognizing my old programs when they begin to run, I am realizing that I am still operating on really basic underlying truths that tend to always be playing in the background while my awareness is distracted.

Typically, when this happens, it's because something has upset me.  But rather than move from this feeling of being upset or hurt, I move directly into anger at the supposed perpetrator of this transgression.

Why don't they know what they did?  Why do they continue to do this despite my asking them not to?  Why don't they listen to me?

This inevitably leads me to my programs, which take these thoughts into the realm of absolutes.


People don't care.  I'm unlovable or there's something wrong with me.  People do not listen.

While I have gotten so much better, particularly in the area of feeling not listened to, and not taking things personally when people do things that feel inconsiderate; I realized that my awareness and recognition is limited to specific acts that I have just begun to recognize.  But, there are some other things that are falling through the cracks.

What are these?  The tend to have to do a lot with not belonging, abandonment, and the home.

While I am doing so well at not taking things personally from friends, family, career, and even relationships; when it gets into an arena that activates my fear of abandonment, not belonging, or my home space; it really begins to unravel my well formed identity.

Particularly in my home life, I have been taking it for granted that the people you live with simply will not care about how what they do will impact you.

Saying it out loud this last week really hit home just how apart of my understanding of the world this concept was.  I never even gave it a second thought these last couple of years working with Janice.

It's so bizarre for me to still be finding these hidden beliefs stuck in the mud of my fears.  I suppose some things simply just take time to rise to the surface so that you can deal with them.  While this may be a small thing, it really isn't.  I was dedicating so much time to feeling angry, to feeling hurt, and to feeling resentful all while feeling like there was simply nothing I could do about it.

While I haven't perfected asking for what I want, I have gotten alot better at it.  What I am still working at, and which is coming a bit slower for me, is letting people know how I feel.

I don't know why this is so hard.  I suppose because it feels like the ultimate test of someone's caring for you.  If you say how you feel and nothing changes?  Well, then they obviously don't care.

But change takes time, and so many people are stuck in their own illusion - their own programs - that to continuously take another's behavior as a reflection on you is almost insane.

Learning to remind people, gently, when they've dropped back into their old routines is a wonderful way to keep things from turning into a button pressing game.

Rather than get your hackles up, and begin to create an argument or defense in your mind; look for a way to discuss your feelings in a non-confrontational way.

The reason discussions devolve into confrontations is because somewhere we, or the other person, believes that they are not entitled to their feelings or else they are afraid that the person won't care or listen to what they say.  Practice slowly, and reiterate your caring for the other.  It's ok to not always see eye to eye, but compromise is a gift and should be employed whenever and towards whatever thing you need to resolve.  Not discussing the problem is no longer an option.  It will grow and grow until it consumes you and it's all you think about.  Is someone leaving dirty dishes in the sink really worth all that?

So, in conclusion.  Yes, I have been lying to myself.  People do care, and I know because I talked to them about it. 

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