During our most recent podcast How to Survive Earth School recording (available on Itunes and Soundcloud), I had an epiphany of sorts with the help of Janice and Christine D.
While
I do this work, and feel like I have gotten so much better recognizing
my old programs when they begin to run, I am realizing that I am still
operating on really basic underlying truths that tend to always be
playing in the background while my awareness is distracted.
Typically,
when this happens, it's because something has upset me. But rather
than move from this feeling of being upset or hurt, I move directly into
anger at the supposed perpetrator of this transgression.
Why don't they know what they did? Why do they continue to do this despite my asking them not to? Why don't they listen to me?
This inevitably leads me to my programs, which take these thoughts into the realm of absolutes.
People don't care. I'm unlovable or there's something wrong with me. People do not listen.
While
I have gotten so much better, particularly in the area of feeling not
listened to, and not taking things personally when people do things that
feel inconsiderate; I realized that my awareness and recognition is
limited to specific acts that I have just begun to recognize. But,
there are some other things that are falling through the cracks.
What are these? The tend to have to do a lot with not belonging, abandonment, and the home.
While
I am doing so well at not taking things personally from friends,
family, career, and even relationships; when it gets into an arena that
activates my fear of abandonment, not belonging, or my home space; it
really begins to unravel my well formed identity.
Particularly in
my home life, I have been taking it for granted that the people you
live with simply will not care about how what they do will impact you.
Saying
it out loud this last week really hit home just how apart of my
understanding of the world this concept was. I never even gave it a
second thought these last couple of years working with Janice.
It's
so bizarre for me to still be finding these hidden beliefs stuck in the
mud of my fears. I suppose some things simply just take time to rise
to the surface so that you can deal with them. While this may be a
small thing, it really isn't. I was dedicating so much time to feeling
angry, to feeling hurt, and to feeling resentful all while feeling like there was simply nothing I could do about it.
While
I haven't perfected asking for what I want, I have gotten alot better
at it. What I am still working at, and which is coming a bit slower for
me, is letting people know how I feel.
I don't know why this is
so hard. I suppose because it feels like the ultimate test of someone's
caring for you. If you say how you feel and nothing changes? Well,
then they obviously don't care.
But change takes time, and so
many people are stuck in their own illusion - their own programs - that
to continuously take another's behavior as a reflection on you is almost
insane.
Learning to remind people, gently, when they've dropped
back into their old routines is a wonderful way to keep things from
turning into a button pressing game.
Rather than get your hackles
up, and begin to create an argument or defense in your mind; look for a
way to discuss your feelings in a non-confrontational way.
The
reason discussions devolve into confrontations is because somewhere we,
or the other person, believes that they are not entitled to their
feelings or else they are afraid that the person won't care or listen to
what they say. Practice slowly, and reiterate your caring for the
other. It's ok to not always see eye to eye, but compromise is a gift
and should be employed whenever and towards whatever thing you need to
resolve. Not discussing the problem is no longer an option. It will
grow and grow until it consumes you and it's all you think about. Is
someone leaving dirty dishes in the sink really worth all that?
So, in conclusion. Yes, I have been lying to myself. People do care, and I know because I talked to them about it.
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Friday, September 18, 2015
Am I Psychic?
Everyone has gifts.
The level to which we can access and utilize them is another matter. Our psychic abilities are alot like other gifts, such as the gift of music, song, skills in sports, or business acumen, in that you have to practice and learn about it in order to hone your skills.
While some people are born with the ability to know and see far beyond what most of us are able to, we shouldn't get discouraged by the ease with which they access their gifts.
Some people are born with this door more open, but some people are born as business prodigies and musical virtuosos, as well. That doesn't mean that we shouldn't work on learning the instrument of our choice. Most people don't have innate ability when it comes to their successes.
It turns out, that most, if not all people, had to work hard to get what they achieved.
So, what are the steps to accessing this knowledge? This will range from person to person, but it certainly will begin with awareness of yourself. If you are running from point A to point B, never taking a second to care for or inquire deeper about yourself- then you likely aren't developing the awareness to hear beyond your inner monologue.
The first thing you have to do to receive an answer is to ask a question. If you aren't questioning, than this is your first mistake.
Here are a few steps to beginning to open to your own psychic abilities:
1. Set aside time dedicated to yourself and to increasing your inner awareness.
For most people, psychic thoughts and feelings will come from inside as a intuitive "lurch," not in a movie-eque way with visions and involved dream sequences, although this may happen with time! (Hey, anything is possible so don't discount it..)
2. During this time, close your eyes and really go within.
Begin to play with your other senses. See how far you can hear into the distance. Put a series of objects in front of you and use your fingers to trace and explore them, use your sense of smell and taste to explore your environment. Question yourself about what are sensing. What do you notice that you hadn't noticed with your eyes open?
3. Exercise.
Our mind is more rested and more open when our body is tired. So many people spend their days at the desk and then go home to flop on the couch. Despite the exhaustion many of us feel at the end of the day, our body has unexpressed energy that it is holding onto; maybe it's frustration from an interaction with a co-worker or excitement over a promising deal; whatever it is, releasing is necessary. Some suggestions include joining a sports league, doing yoga, dropping into a dance class, or hiking. Whatever way you enjoy using your body, make time to do it.
4. Begin to question when you want to know something.
Start with small things. Where is there a parking spot? What time will my wife be back? etc. etc. See if you can begin to get answers to some of these questions. You'll find the more you do this consciously, the easier it is to question subconsciously and start to get answers to the questions you are asking.
5. Consciously note your predictions and intuitive feelings when they come true.
It's almost like a stream that starts as a trickle and begins to gain momentum. Become aware and consciously make note of when when you are using your abilities. This is a good way to better understand when a thought is your intuition knocking or when it is something that's been generated from your thoughts, feelings, wishes or fears. Being an "active antenna" also makes it more likely that messages will be sent your way. People tend not to send mail to an address that isn't checking the mailbox!
6. Recognize the intersection of manifestation and psychic ability.
We all also have the power to manifest what we want. The intersection between manifestation and psychic predictions can be confusing. Did that thing happen because I wanted or feared it was going to happen or because I knew it would and it was inevitable? Much of our lives are created by us and our thoughts and feelings. Begin to play with the idea of creating your future from your desires. Set intentions and create goals and action plans. You may be surprised to see that this helps you to tap into your abilities, to foresee possible pitfalls, recognize when a person is an ally that can assist you, and attract more fortuitous coincidences.
Using these tips and practicing everyday will begin to open you up to the amazing amount of information that is bouncing around at any given moment. Make sure you protect yourself when you begin to play with your psychic abilities in the white light of love and protection. You want to surround your aura with a golden net to keep out negative energy. Being more sensitive is wonderful, but you want to make sure you are only letting positivity and light into your sphere.
Have fun! Let us know your results!
- Christine
The level to which we can access and utilize them is another matter. Our psychic abilities are alot like other gifts, such as the gift of music, song, skills in sports, or business acumen, in that you have to practice and learn about it in order to hone your skills.
While some people are born with the ability to know and see far beyond what most of us are able to, we shouldn't get discouraged by the ease with which they access their gifts.
Some people are born with this door more open, but some people are born as business prodigies and musical virtuosos, as well. That doesn't mean that we shouldn't work on learning the instrument of our choice. Most people don't have innate ability when it comes to their successes.
It turns out, that most, if not all people, had to work hard to get what they achieved.
So, what are the steps to accessing this knowledge? This will range from person to person, but it certainly will begin with awareness of yourself. If you are running from point A to point B, never taking a second to care for or inquire deeper about yourself- then you likely aren't developing the awareness to hear beyond your inner monologue.
The first thing you have to do to receive an answer is to ask a question. If you aren't questioning, than this is your first mistake.
Here are a few steps to beginning to open to your own psychic abilities:
1. Set aside time dedicated to yourself and to increasing your inner awareness.
For most people, psychic thoughts and feelings will come from inside as a intuitive "lurch," not in a movie-eque way with visions and involved dream sequences, although this may happen with time! (Hey, anything is possible so don't discount it..)
2. During this time, close your eyes and really go within.
Begin to play with your other senses. See how far you can hear into the distance. Put a series of objects in front of you and use your fingers to trace and explore them, use your sense of smell and taste to explore your environment. Question yourself about what are sensing. What do you notice that you hadn't noticed with your eyes open?
3. Exercise.
Our mind is more rested and more open when our body is tired. So many people spend their days at the desk and then go home to flop on the couch. Despite the exhaustion many of us feel at the end of the day, our body has unexpressed energy that it is holding onto; maybe it's frustration from an interaction with a co-worker or excitement over a promising deal; whatever it is, releasing is necessary. Some suggestions include joining a sports league, doing yoga, dropping into a dance class, or hiking. Whatever way you enjoy using your body, make time to do it.
4. Begin to question when you want to know something.
Start with small things. Where is there a parking spot? What time will my wife be back? etc. etc. See if you can begin to get answers to some of these questions. You'll find the more you do this consciously, the easier it is to question subconsciously and start to get answers to the questions you are asking.
5. Consciously note your predictions and intuitive feelings when they come true.
It's almost like a stream that starts as a trickle and begins to gain momentum. Become aware and consciously make note of when when you are using your abilities. This is a good way to better understand when a thought is your intuition knocking or when it is something that's been generated from your thoughts, feelings, wishes or fears. Being an "active antenna" also makes it more likely that messages will be sent your way. People tend not to send mail to an address that isn't checking the mailbox!
6. Recognize the intersection of manifestation and psychic ability.
We all also have the power to manifest what we want. The intersection between manifestation and psychic predictions can be confusing. Did that thing happen because I wanted or feared it was going to happen or because I knew it would and it was inevitable? Much of our lives are created by us and our thoughts and feelings. Begin to play with the idea of creating your future from your desires. Set intentions and create goals and action plans. You may be surprised to see that this helps you to tap into your abilities, to foresee possible pitfalls, recognize when a person is an ally that can assist you, and attract more fortuitous coincidences.
Using these tips and practicing everyday will begin to open you up to the amazing amount of information that is bouncing around at any given moment. Make sure you protect yourself when you begin to play with your psychic abilities in the white light of love and protection. You want to surround your aura with a golden net to keep out negative energy. Being more sensitive is wonderful, but you want to make sure you are only letting positivity and light into your sphere.
Have fun! Let us know your results!
- Christine
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